In today’s modern world, where most people have access to an infinite amount of knowledge and information at their disposal; access to everything at their fingertips ( within the touch of a button, thanks to technological transformations like amazon.com) The need for patience is slowly diminishing. Easy accessibility of almost everything in abundance has left us with little to no work for getting the dopaminergic response inside our brains.

The purpose that drives men

Men have been creatures that have been driven, for most of human history, by a purpose to provide and take care of the people around them. Before the technological advancements, when the world was less connected and the people around us meant more to us rather than the entire world, Men were driven to provide for their families. That was due to the women being equally driven to nurture the young ones of the family. The post-modern world has taken away both these purposes; especially from men.

The post-modern world has fooled women into thinking that taking care of a family and nurturing is a diminishing job and that they should be out there in the “real world” competing with men. They have been conspired into thinking that it’s been high time that they’ve been oppressed by men with power and it’s time for them to start competing with these men. Having a family or even planning on having one is secondary (or even tertiary for some women) and rather, their careers will provide meaning to their lives.

Dating Apps

With the rise of technology, there has also been a rise in dating apps. Apps like Tinder, hinge, and Bumble have seen a steep rise in the number of users. the gender disparity on these dating apps varies too. In an ideal world, There would be an equal number of female users as there are male users. But, in reality, that’s far from the truth. In an article shared by The Economic Times, close to 90% of users on dating apps in India are men. That can seem a far outreached ratio but for correction, let’s consider this ratio to 75%. In that case, for every woman, there are 3 men on these platforms. That ratio indicates how crooked these dating apps are from the perspective of men. Most men have a really hard time getting even a single match.

Fall of Monogamy

Much of human history has been based on monogamy ( being in a sexual relationship with only one partner). The post modern world has made that fall too. With Social media on the rise and everyone having access to a lot of options these days, ‘monogamy’ seems to be in the fall. Especially in terms of females, they have access to a lot of options in today’s world. there is not a single women out there that does not get any attention. Everything has been so normalized that any kind of insufficiency has been regarded as not the women’s problem, but rather the society’s. If you’re fat or overweight, It’s not your problem but rather the one seeing you as fat. It’s completely okay for women to demand six-foot-tall men, but on the other hand, men have no right to say a word about their weight or anything for that matter.

Fall of monogamy has given rise to polyamory (non-monogamy where people have multiple romantic or sexual relationships at the same time). This has resulted in only a few men getting all the women and most men having little to no access to any kind of intimate relationships. What happens in this current scenario is that the majority of the men are not rewarded for building any kind of medium to long-term relationships with these women. Hence, it leaves the women in a vicious circle and the majority of the men are single and lonely.

The legal Aspect

Society at large has “sexist” laws that are too much against men. If a woman lays any kind of mistreatment accusation ( false or true is a matter of subject depending upon the historical events and motives behind it) on men, the laws stack up against the man in such a way that his whole life can be thrown apart (in case of rape or non-consensual physical accusations). Divorce laws are stacked against men at an extreme level. if you have children let’s suppose, those can be taken away from you on top of your portion of assets and wealth. This aspect has also diminished the purpose for men to provide for the people around them.

The modern Epidemic

There is no consideration of men’s feelings in this world. Women expect him to be a millionaire by the age of twenty (which most men are not). The social structures have labeled men as oppressors. Thus, growing up as a young man in today’s world is extremely hard. Marriages are late. Our parents or our grandparents married at an early age and that seems to be a healthy course of going about things. These aspects combined in all their deep forms have resulted in most men being lonely.